“According to a new survey, women say they feel more comfortable undressing in front of men than they do undressing in front of other women. They say that women are too judgmental, where, of course, men are just grateful.” –Robert De Niro
Midlife sex can be complicated—or at least that’s what I thought until I began to do some research. Contrary to what you may think, women feel better at 50 than they do at 40—particularly when it comes to getting naked. At 40, many women feel that they have to look like their 20-year-old sisters (and daughters). Rather than embracing 40, they mourn for 25 and 30 holding an even larger magnifying glass up to what they consider their imperfections. The truth is—the majority of men don’t even know what cellulite is, don’t know where your boobs used to be and absolutely love the feel of soft, touchable flesh.
At 50 women seem to care less what both other women and men think about their bodies and focus on their own pleasure. “I just want to have lots of fun in bed” said a woman I talked to about sex in midlife. “I certainly have lots of flaws and imperfections but what the hell—they don’t stop me from having great sex and great orgasms”.
The consensus among these “older” women is that sex is about experience and feeling and not about looking and seeing. “If a man “sees” something he doesn’t like, he’s welcome to go elsewhere!” says another woman. “I don’t have time to waste on my veins and brown spots!” Amen!
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